Book Recommendations

Books on Religious Trauma written by White authors:

  • Pure: Inside the Evangelical Movement That Shamed a Generation of Young Women and How I Broke Free by Linda Kay Klein

  • Taking Back Your Life: Recovering from Cults and Abusive Relationships by Janja Lalich & Madeleine Tobias

  • When Religion Hurts You: Healing from Religious Trauma and the Impact of High-Control Religion by Laura E. Anderson

Books on Religious Trauma written by BIPOC authors:

  • Eloquent Rage: A Black Feminist Discovers Her Superpower by Brittney Cooper

  • Sacred Wounds: A Path to Healing from Spiritual Trauma by Teresa B. Pasquale

  • Religious Experience in Trauma: Koreans' Collective Complex of Inferiority and the Korean Protestant Church by Kwangyu Lee

Books on Religious Trauma written by Queer authors:

  • Outside the Lines: How Embracing Queerness Will Transform Your Faith by Mihee Kim-Kort

  • Yes, Daddy by Jonathan Parks-Ramage (fictional novel; TW: rape, violent sex)

Books on Religious Trauma outside of Christianity:

  • Unorthodox: The Scandalous Rejection of My Hasidic Roots by Deobrah Feldman

  • When Mormons Doubt: A Way to Save Relationships and Seek a Quality Life by Jon Ogden

  • Here and There: Leaving Hasidism, Keeping My Family by Chaya Deitsch

  • Leaving Buddha: A Tibetan Monk’s Encounter with the Living God by by Tenzin Lahkpa & Eugene Bach

Books on Religious Trauma and Sexual Healing:

  • Beyond Shame: Creating a Healthy Sex Life on Your Own Terms by Matthias Roberts

  • Sex, God, and the Conservative Church: Erasing Shame from Sexual Intimacy by Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers

  • Shameless: A Case for Not Feeling Bad about Feeling Good (about Sex) by Nadia Bolz-Weber

Books on Religious Trauma and pursuing non-religion afterwards:

  • Faith No More: Why People Reject Religion by Phil Zuckerman

  • Life After Faith: The Case for Secular Humanism by Philip Kitcher

Books on Trauma (thank you to this post from @AccountabilityMapping on IG for many of these recommendations)

Content Warning for many: trauma, racism, rape, and war

  • Trauma and Recovery by Judith Herman

  • Complex PTSD: From Suriving to Thriving by Pete Walker

  • What My Bones Knew by Stephanie Foo

  • It Didn’t Start With You: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End the Cycle by Mark Wolynn

  • The Body Remembers by Babette Rothschild

  • Black Skin, White Masks by Frantz Fanon

  • Decolonizing Trauma Work by Renee Linklater

  • My Grandmother’s Hands by Resmaa Menakem

  • The Deepest Well by Dr. Nadine Burke

  • Healing Resistance by Kazu Haga

  • Wretched of the Earth by Frantz Fanon

  • The Politics of Trauma: Somatics , Healing, and Social Justice by Staci Haines

  • We’ve Been Too Patient: Voices from Radical Mental Health by L.D. Green & Kelechi Ubozoh

  • Medicine Stories by Aurora Levins Morales

  • What Happened to You?: Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing by Oprah Winfrey & Bruce D Perry

  • Wild Indians: Native Perspectives on the Hiawatha Asylum for Insane Indians by Pemina Yellow Bird

Books on Pleasure & Sex

  • Permission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual Garden by Cindy Scharkey (also, shameless plug: I was on Cindy’s podcast, listen here!)

  • Pleasure Activism by adrienne marie brown

  • Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life by Dr. Emily Nagoski

  • Come Together: The Science (and Art!) of Creating Lasting Sexual Connections by Dr. Emily Nagoski

  • Feel It All: A Therapist's Guide to Reimagining Your Relationship with Sex by Casey Tanner

  • Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence by Esther Perel

Books on Perfectionism

  • Rest is Resistance: A Manifesto by Tricia Hersey

  • The Perfectionist's Guide to Losing Control: A Path to Peace and Power by Katherine Morgan Schafler

Books on Relationships & Love

  • Set Boundaries, Find Peace: A Guide to Reclaiming Yourself by Dr. Nedra Tawwab

  • Drama Free: A Guide to Managing Unhealthy Family Relationships by Dr. Nedra Tawwab

  • Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find—and Keep—Love by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller

  • All About Love: New Visions by bell hooks

  • Do You Still Talk to Grandma? by Brit Barron

Books on Pregnancy & Parenting

  • Like a Mother: A Feminist Journey Through the Science and Culture of Pregnancy by Angela Garbes

  • Good Inside: A Guide to Becoming the Parent You Want to Be by Dr. Becky Kennedy

  • The Whole-Brain Child: 12 Revolutionary Strategies to Nurture Your Child's Developing Mind by Dr. Dan Siegal and Tina Payne Bryson

  • Brainstorm: The Power and Purpose of the Teenage Brain by Dr. Dan Siegal

Books on Child-Free by Choice

  • Childfree by Choice: The Movement Redefining Family and Creating a New Age of Independence by Dr. Amy Blackstone

  • Otherhood: Essays on being childless, childfree and child-adjacent edited by Kathryn Van Beek, Alie Benge, Lil O'Brien

Books on Embodiment

  • The Wisdom of Your Body: Finding Healing, Wholeness, and Connection through Embodied Living by Dr. Hilary McBride

  • The Body Is Not an Apology: The Power of Radical Self-Love by Sonya Renee Taylor

Workbooks

  • The Mindful Self-Compassion Workbook: A Proven Way to Accept Yourself, Build Inner Strength, and Thrive by Dr. Kristin Neff and Dr. Christopher Germer

And what am I currently reading?

I’m slowly making my way through “Onyx Storm” by Rebecca Yarros

YA Fantasy is fun!

Podcast Recommendations

to be added soon…